My daughter Cheyenne who will be seven in July is illegitimate. Her father died in Iraq.
What really bothers me is the fact that my boyfriend's family will not acknowledge the fact that she's their granddaugther. They do not send birthday cards or anything because she's illegitimate. It bothers me because my family is totally doting.
Is this normal, but I feel guilty that I had not married him? I was twenty-eight then, maybe I had made a mistake when I didn't marry him.
But its too late now, he is dead.
You must turn on, tune in and drop out.
Timothy Leary
I reserve the right to be ignorant. That's the Western way of life. The Spy who came in from the cold
Mama always said life was like a box a chocolates, never know what you're gonna get.
I don't think you should feel guilty. Your child is as legitimate as any child born within a marriage or common-law relationship.
Your child was conceived by two loving parents and has every legitimate right to exist in this world. Remember, there are no illegitimate children in the world....just illegitimate parents. (Meaning outside marriage as our society calls marriage a "legit" union.)
I'm sorry for the circumstances surrounding your daughter's father but I am even more sorry for your boyfriend's family who will be missing out on the joy of your daughter.
You did what what right for you at the time. I wouldn't second guess my choices if I were you. No one knows what the future will hold so take it day by day.
07-01-2006 03:20 AM
