FEBRUARY 17--This country, as you know, is filled with the deranged. And then there's Travis Frey, a 33-year-old Iowa man who is facing charges that he tried to kidnap his own wife (not to mention a separate child pornography rap). Frey, prosecutors contend, apparently is a rather demanding guy. In fact, he actually drew up a bizarre four-page marriage document--a "Contract of Wifely Expectations"--that sought to establish guidelines for his spouse in terms of hygiene, clothing, and sexual activities. In return for fulfilling certain requirements, Frey offered "Good Behavior Days," or GBDs. Each GBD, Frey wrote, could be redeemed by his wife to "get out of doing the things" he requested daily. A copy of the proposed contract, which Frey's wife never signed and later provided to cops, can be found below. While we normally point out the highlights of most documents, there are so many in this demented, and very graphic, contract, we really can't do it justice. So set aside ten minutes--and prepare to be repulsed.
WARNING.... the following "document" is quite explicit in some places.
Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmm, can I just say that this sounds somewhat like a contract that you would find in the world of a D/s relationship... (Dominant/submissive). While it would be in a lot more detail, it is something quite similiar. It's possible that they had something of the sort, and that it's just not been brought out into detail at this point.
But, other than that... that dude is smoking whacky weed. I would NEVER allow someone to set those rules for me. But hey... to each their own.
:::>^..^<::: ~*~The Journey is more important than the end or the start~*~ :::>^..^<:::
I won't read the document, but by Lawless comments, I only want to ask....
is there any mention of "safe words?"
Because if not, this isn't a contract between Doms/Subs, it's just a control freak who needs to be locked up with other control freaks for the rest of his life.
nikiTa, not all D/s relationships have a 'safe word' Some choose to not use them. And, if it's a M/slave relationship, there is absolutely NOT safe word permitted.
:::>^..^<::: ~*~The Journey is more important than the end or the start~*~ :::>^..^<:::
And if that were the case...that the person was not a willing submissive....why would they even go to the trouble of writing up a "contract?" Interesting....
And she never signed it... maybe he wrote it after the fact to save his ass.
It's okay, nikiTa.... most people, unless they have been IN that life style, don't understand what all it contains. And, the fact is, every single BDSM, D/s, M/s relationship is different. Because each 'couple' is different... with different values, visions, wants, desires, needs, etc...
Anyway... if she wasn't willing for such a thing, that would explain why she never signed the thing. But, who knows WHY he drew it up in the first place. Maybe he was just some control freak, who decided to change things up, and control her life.
:::>^..^<::: ~*~The Journey is more important than the end or the start~*~ :::>^..^<:::
To me, it simply screams control freak rather than S/M. Basically this guy is being arrested for kidnapping his wife. She never signed this contract, as it says above, but I'm surprised she didn't realize he was nuts before marrying him. Perhaps he had something like an S/M relationship in mind, but from the sounds of it she certainly didn't.
He's also going down for Child Porno, so I hope he fries. Slow and painfully. I guess those sick cons in prison'll think of some good punishment for him
EDIT: okay, Kris and I just said similar things...
"I'm for it so we can put Nuclear power plants up there, and then beam the power back to earth on a laser beam." ~ Whidden
It's okay, nikiTa.... most people, unless they have been IN that life style, don't understand what all it contains.
Have you read any books by Artemis Oakgrove?
She wrote several books of the lesbian genre of this lifestyle.
She lives/lived in Colorado
And I did .... some ... how do you say this?.... performance "art" with her and others in several bars....
And I don't know, these were some hard core folks, but maybe I was the sort that wouldn't get into anything without a way out or giving someone a way out...and I am sure from what you are saying that there were those of the no "safe words" variety...but I must have been blind to this, or blessed, however you want to look at it.
(Or quite frankly, so drunk I didn't even realize it. )
I actually got a laugh out of the contract. It basically says 'I get to do any nasty thing I want to you' it also says ''you will be cheerful and adoring toward me'' . Do people like that even exist?
"Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, diet coke in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming "WOO HOO what a ride!"
Inside me lives a skinny woman crying to get out. But I can usually shut her up with cookies.
A friend is someone who thinks you're a good egg, even though you're slightly cracked.
02-20-2006 09:10 AM
