I saw something interesting on TV awhile back. A doctor studied men and female minds before and after sexual arrosel.
He concluded that men typically anticipate and desire sex more throughout the day than women, but when it gets down to business women are about 30% more passionate.
I also heard from a seperate source that most men need sex to feel close and women need closeness to really think about sex.
If this is true, it would explain a lot.
What are your opinions?
Please pardon my pseudo-intellectuaphilisophicalismysiticality.
most men need sex to feel close and women need closeness to really think about sex
I have heard that before and it seems pretty right to me. Women define closeness as more of an emotional connection, but men define it more as a physical aspect of a relationship.
I would say that closeness is more emotional. Men think of it as a physical thing because they don't like to talk about emotions. Actions speak louder than words type of thing.
He concluded that men typically anticipate and desire sex
This was what I hated about men in high school. They typically wanted to have sex and their relationships could go to hell for all they cared. That may not be true for all men but I heard recently that on a talk show that married men would want to have a room for sex and a room that they could sleep in and that made me furious. So all you care about in a marriage is sex? That is a very small part of marriage and most marriages that I have witnessed that were based on sex, never lasted as long as they wanted. This may not be true for everyone and I hope its not, believe me.
'Moral indignation is jealousy with a halo'- H.G Wells
I'm gonna go against the grain and say men are just as emotional as women.
They just don't need to talk about it all the time. They look over at the girl and they love the girl, they know the girl loves them, they don't need to talk about the obvious.
That makes them non romantic maybe, but not less emotional about the relationship.
Seventy percent of men think about sex every day -- double the rate among women. Indeed, 43 percent of men think about sex several times a day; just 13 percent of women do that. Eighty-three percent of men enjoy sex "a great deal"; that falls to 59 percent of women....
Women are more conservative about sex in other ways. They're more apt than men to say there's too much sex on TV, 84 percent to 62 percent. They're less likely than men to condone sex before marriage, 54 to 68 percent. And 61 percent of sexually active women, compared with 50 percent of men, call themselves sexually traditional, not adventurous. In other personal predilections, men are twice as likely as women to sleep in the nude (31 percent of men, 14 percent of women), and women are much more likely to prefer to have sex with the lights off (51 percent of women, 27 percent of men).
It found that women talked more frequently than men about sexual matters including sexual behavior, sexual feelings, dating and romantic relationships, "making out," the dangers of sex, abstinence, how attractive members of the other sex were, how attractive they themselves were, date rape and contraception.
Men's sexual fantasies tend to be more sexually explicit than women's; women's fantasies tend to be more emotional and romantic...25% of men reported visiting a pornographic site in the previous 30 days; 4% of women reported visiting pornographic sites in the same timeframe.
Males have double the brain space and processing power devoted to sex as females. Just as women have an eight-lane superhighway for processing emotion while men have a small country road, men have O'Hare Airport as a hub of processing thoughts about sex whereas women have the airfield nearby that lands small and private planes. That probably explains why 85 percent of twenty- to thirty-year-old males think about sex every fifty-two seconds and women think about it once a day -- or up to three or four times on their most fertile days.
Women's talk about sexual matters is
like exchange of information and views.
Man's thinking about sexul desire is
for a little of individual excitement.
KerryO1 said this in post #7 : I have heard it said that men give romance to get sex. Women give sex to get romance. Seems like it shouldn't be so difficult.
10-16-2004 08:43 PM
This thread has got some good ideas to it
