How long have you two been together? Do you consider it a committed and monogamous relationship? Has he had previous sexual partners and if so, has he been tested for HIV and other STDs? Are you informed on birth control options and what would you do if you became pregnant? AND, very importantly, do you want to have sex or are you only considering it to please him? Like I said, there is a lot involved. I wouldn't worry so much about it hurting. It may be uncomfortable the first time but, the real questions to ask yourself are the ones I stated above.
"What one believes to be real, will be real in it's concequences"
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world"
Thank You, I want to do it to plezze him, and no he hasn't been tested, he told me that he would get a part-time job to take care of the baby. He said he doesn't want to use a birth control pill because that would make him look like a wimp, and if we didn't use the pill he said he would be a pimp. We've been together 4 2 weeks. He has had ### partners. 3 girls and 3 boys. He's bisexual. He has guys over our house having romanic fun wit them. But he said he'll stop that and is more into girls now. I love him but, should i lose my v card though i mean it would make me popular in school, and if i didn't guys wouldn't wanna go wit me if i didn't do it. He wants me to tell him soon. He already started buying baby clothes. I did more advice about this.
Ok...some really important things here, in my opinion...
1.) It takes more than a part-time job to support a baby.
2.) He's had 6 sexual partners; he needs to be tested for your protection.
3.) You using birth control makes him a wimp? What?!?
4.) Having sex will make you more popular? Um...probably not in the right way and anyhow, popularity is very less than important. Trust me, once you are out of school, popularity means absolutely nothing.
5.) Your relationship isn't monogamous if he is fooling around with guys but promises to keep it with just girls. This guy isn't ready to be a father, a husband, or anything serious. Are you prepared to be a single mom?
6.) You two have been together for two weeks and you are absolutely positive that you want this guy to be the father of your children? How sure are you that he is going to stick around after he gets a piece?
7.) The decision to have sex and probably even more-so, to lose your virginity is your decision. Do not do it just to please some guy, especially when he hasn't even made a committment to you.
"What one believes to be real, will be real in it's concequences"
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world"
I know but i love him, and he said that he would take care of me when we had our child. He has ordered 2 birth control pills but says we don't need them. He says that it doesn't hurt to have ###. He said that he promises to always love me and stick with girls, but i see guys phone numbers in his room though. He has 3children already with this 15 year old and he's 20 years old. He just wants ##### right??? I think i love him but how can i tell. He doesn't do anything but wanna make out wit me at night and see me freak girls for show at the club he goes to. He wants me to be a lesbian, so his ### life will be better and so me and his siter will freak each other, he has a child with his own sister. I know he's trouble, but losing my v card is a chance i ahev to take. Becoming a lesbian, should i do that????
Ok, at this point, I seriously hope that you are joking with me.
He has a child with his sister? He wants to watch you get it on with his sister? Does this sound like a mentally stable individual to you? He has three kids with a 15 year old AND he wants another with you? I suppose his part-time job will be able to support four children...(please note sarcasm).
And what do you mean he ordered two birth control pills? He can't order two birth control pills. You, the female, has to go to an OBGYN and get a prescription for a month's supply of birth control pills, at a time.
Should you become a lesbian? You don't become a lesbian. If you are curious about being with girls, questioning your own sexuality; if you want to try being with females, then Ok. But, for the sake of enhancing his sex life?!?!
So he says he loves you and he'll stick with girls...how about one girl, YOU! This guy is a joke and you are willing to lose your V-card to him and have his child? WHY?! Please tell me that you are just playin with me.
"What one believes to be real, will be real in it's concequences"
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world"
No i'm not playing wit u. I'm serious about this. He wants to stay wit me, he tells me this everytime he goes to bed. His sister was rapped before and when he was trying to make her feel better they headed to the bed. His sister tryied to make a move on my by touching my thighs. Then she leened forward to kiss me and we almost headed to the bed. She started taking my shirt off and we didn't do anything after that cause i stopped her. She said she was willing to have s*e*x wit me but said no. I'm so tierd of boys i'm thinking of moving on to girls. I was drunk one time and me and his sister hit it off but only once. We kissed and she felt on me and i kissed her and we headed to the bedroom. I sick of people like this. Girls say i should become a lesbian for my own sake. I think I am. What do u think??? My boyfriend had another girl over our house and they were having s*e*x, he asked me to join for a three sum and the girl got out the bed started touching all over me a laughing. I was shocked. I kissed her and that was that.
If you want to be intimate with a girl and its for you, then fine. But, you initially said that your boyfriend wanted you to do it and that is why I said you shouldn't do it, just for him.
I don't see how incest can make someone feel better about being raped. This guy has sex with his sister, which is incest, has had sex with another female when is is supposed to be with you, and is fooling around with guys as well. It sounds to me like someone needs to get their hormones in check.
Now you want to have sex with this guy? Do you have any idea how many STDs he could have? Honey, you need to look out for #1 here. Not to mention, he clearly is not ready for the responsibility that comes with parenthood.
I don't know what else to say. I can't believe that anyone would even consider giving up their virginity to a guy like this. I can't believe that you think he would be a good father for your child. Do you have anyone that you can talk to about all this? I mean someone close, if not a parent, maybe an aunt or something?
"What one believes to be real, will be real in it's concequences"
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world"
Cutiepie, you need to run for the hills. He comes from a highly disfunctional family. He is bisexual-an extremely risky sexual practice for one who does not use protection. Seriously, this guy should not be asking you to have unprotected sex. Taking the pill does not protect against AIDS or any other STD. You would need to use condoms and birth control pills to be sure. What type of guy would want to see his sister have sex or ask his girlfriend to be with other people. Trust me, if you continue with this guy, you will regret it forever. You deserve better and do not settle for ANYONE who asks you to do anything that you do not feel comfortable with. OH< and how would he know what it feels like for a girl to loose her virginity? Sure he is going to say it does not hurt. Last rant, children NEVER should be brought into the word because you are too lazy to use birth control. Every child deserves to be wanted and cherished. Don't have a baby out of laziness with protection.
Well thanx 4 the advice but i've moved on 2 girls and now we have been together. It's been better. He's moved on to men. I still date men though. I'm a bisexual now. Holla Back at yo girl and see how i'm doing. Ask any questions if u wanna know about my s*e*x life or what we been doing.
05-08-2004 02:21 PM
Last rant, children NEVER should be brought into the word because you are too lazy to use birth control. Every child deserves to be wanted and cherished. Don't have a baby out of laziness with protection.
