This is for people who would like to talk about weddings.
Are you getting married soon? I am...
Do you want to discuss your wedding... even if it was 10 - 20 years ago?
Do you want to talk about your dream wedding?
I would love to hear more about your wedding KJ, (if you don't mind) out of curiousity have you had many people get wierd by thought of a "gay wedding"? I think it is great your church accepts it. Are you actually getting married or are you having a Committment Ceremony?
I would also love to hear about anyone else's wedding. I love weddings!!!! So very romantic and just perfect. I wish my boyfriend would get his act together, I mean it's been five years already ... I am waiting ...... LOL.
Also tips on how to cut costs would be a good idea, I have a friend and she is a bit strapped for cash but they want to get married because she's "up the duff". So many people get in to so much debt doing weddings having weddings, but I read something about an Australian woman who managed to fo the whole thing for like $500 AUS. I had a friend spend $15,000.00 AUS (not including the Honeymoon) on hers, thats just nuts.
Well, we were going to do the whole "Church wedding" but because we want to spend VERY little money, we're going to have it be really simple. Just a few friends and family... and all go out afterwards. Yes, it's completely different, but we want simple and easy. We haven't made up our minds on all the details... but, when we know, I will tell ya.
I can't imagine spending big bucks on a wedding... there is so much more that money can go toward.
For us... we're paying off ALL of our bills over the next few months... and then, we're taking a vacation, and going on a cruise. So, we want our money to go toward that, so we can go diving, shopping, etc... while visiting sites. And then, we're moving back up to the Bay area after christmas... so, I want to save up money for the move.
The wedding is important, but not enough to spend a lot of money on it.
My church is a very open and affirming community of people. I love them all... and I'm third generation there. So, we've come a long way... never thought that would happen, but it did.
:::>^..^<::: ~*~The Journey is more important than the end or the start~*~ :::>^..^<:::
I think all of us inreviewers should be invited...and we can go out there ourselves...no extra cost to you....(and psssst...if we cant make it..we will still send gifts. .. )
My wedding....it was really nice...it was small like you are planning...family and close friends...we had the reception at a later date...long story! Very long....anyhow we had a small party that night but the grande reception took place about two weeks later...
the reception...OH..the reception!!!!!...
want to hear a funny story?
Yes?
Okay...
We had the reception at our apartment club house...it was cheap and huge and really nice...and we, like you, didnt want to spend a fortune...anyhow...it started early in the day...around 3ish..
I didnt drink that much...but my husband...oh man..he drank so much Absolute vodka that night...and we eventually left the clubhouse to go to a bar that my friend bartended at...we were all drinking pretty heavily...(well I wasnt...I was driving)...we get out to the car to go home when it was closing time..(yes, it was an all day affair..almost all day if you count 3 pm to 2 am an all day!) We get to the car and my husband pees on my car....my porsche (which I no longer have... )....
I was not all too happy about that..but I let it go...we get home...and I have to go to the bathroom, but he decided he needs it more than I do...so he rushes in there...I sat down and stood up and crossed my legs...I did that for 20 minutes...(I didnt want to go in there..I thought he was sick..and I wanted no part of that! Bleck!)
But I cant stand it anymore..so I knock on the door, and there is no answer...I knock again...still...no answer...
So I go on in and what do I see? Him sleeping...on a pillow next to the toilet..BUTT naked! On the tiled floor!!! Okay it was the beginning of September (we got married late August)...and it was still warm outside...but you know how tiled floors are..BURR!
I had to crawl over him to go and then managed to get him up, into bed, and eventually moved to the couch because he had dry heaves all night.
No..the ending wasnt great....but it was the funniest sight I ever saw when I entered the bathroom...
So...now you all got the rundown of my grande reception...
The first one was nice...we got married early in the day so we did a dinner that night...close friends and family.
The grande reception (as we call it)..had everyone there! Was too much fun!
Well...you really wanted wedding stories though huh?
It was nice...there is a funny story that went with that too though....I couldnt get the ring on his finger..we had to put each others rings on...and I couldnt do it...I kept trying but it wouldnt budge over his knuckle....we started laughing so hard....and we couldnt stop...It was nerves on top of embarrassment for me..and nerves and humor at my expense for him....
Well...it might have seemed a disaster...but almost ten years later...its still great!
He still has laughs at my expense...but Ive learned the trick and can do it back...Im not sure Ive mastered it as good as he has though...but I have a lifetime to work on it!
Of course thats just my opinion....I could be wrong. (Dennis Miller)
"You might be the toughest little whacker. . .but in my world, you're about as worrisome as a cloudy day." (Dutch Dooley)
mystic... there will be someone from INR there. Sherry and her family!
It's really going to be small... but if someone from here where that decided on being here, I would probably say yes. (Well, depending on who it was)
:::>^..^<::: ~*~The Journey is more important than the end or the start~*~ :::>^..^<:::
Kris, I'm so happy for you and Heidi! When that day comes and goes, I hope you'll share some pics in the photo album!
I've been a bridesmaid many times over. Only twice was I forced to wear a hideous dress for it.
The night before my oldest brother got married, he broke up a bar fight (he was a patrol officer back then) and ended up with a black eye. My sister had to rush over to his apartment before the wedding to apply emergency makeup techniques so it wouldn't look like he had a wild bachelor party.
In July a good friend of mine is getting married to her boyfriend of 7 years. It's Hawaiian themed since he's Hawaiian, so I'll hit Hilo Hatties to find a dress for the occasion in Orlando. Another friend of mine and I are going in together on the bride's bachelorette/shower gift, we're going to get a bottle of wine, wine glasses, as ice bucket, something skimpy from Victoria's Secret, cheese & crackers, and a framed poem by my sister. I love those gift baskets with all the trimmings, I hope she'll like it too!
After reading about the bridezilla who got drunk at her own reception and arrested by the cops, I googled "brides from hell" and found the following website. It's pretty funny, and you wouldn't believe how many shallow people there are out there! http://www.etiquettehell.com/
Any way, I look forward to the day that I get hitched to the old ball and chain.
Kris I wish you and Heidi all the happiness in the world, God knows you guys deserve it!
Holy War....You're basically killing each other to see who's got the better imaginary friend. - Richard Jeni
My wedding was almost 8 years ago. I planned ahead, had just 3 bridesmaids. We had it at the church I have been going to my whole life. Simple flowers, simple everything. My mom made my dress, my sister helped me do my veil. The music was sung by a lady that used to attend my church. I went to school with her son, and I loved hearing her sing in church.
The reception was a sit down dinner. All went well. My best advice is to get comfortable shoes. I could not sleep the night of my wedding because my feet hurt so bad.
fuscia said this in post #7 : The reception was a sit down dinner. All went well. My best advice is to get comfortable shoes. I could not sleep the night of my wedding because my feet hurt so bad.
I thought most people didn't sleep the night of their wedding. Just messing with you fuscia.
"Every positive integer is one of Ramanujan's personal friends."—J. E. Littlewood.
I love to talk about weddings! I received so many compliments on my wedding, which was in Sept 2002. It was small, simple, and personal. Plus, I did a great job of cutting costs for myself and anyone involved.
First, I didn't have a wedding party. I know this is important to some people but, it wasn't for me. We were married by a JP and the ceremony was brief. So, I couldn't see making my sister and my friends spend 1-2 hundred dollars on shoes and a dress that they would never again wear.
The reception was small; exactly 50 people. This was obviously a big factor in the "saving of money". But, this was also partly what made it so nice. For the most part, everyone knew everyone. There wasn't a bunch of unfamiliar faces.
The dinner was a fantastic buffet and we had a spread of fruits, veggies, crackers, and cheese, for before dinner.
The DJ played music for the first two hours, following dinner, and after that, it was Karaoke. This was a lot of fun and really added that "different" or "non-traditional" element that we were looking for.
We skipped the wedding cake. How many people actually eat the wedding cake? We just didn't see is as a necessary expense. The restaurant served dessert and coffee after the meal, so that was fine with us.
I chose a non-traditional, silver gown, which was much less expensive than an actual wedding dress. I had a tiara (which was a bit pricey) but, my grandmother made my veil and my guarder. My sister made the centerpieces and the wishing-well for the cards. I hand made every favor for each place setting. They were all different masks (like for Mardi-graw) in our colors, black, white, and silver. Each was unique. We also put beads on each guest that came through the door (also in our colors).
We put cameras on all of the tables for the guests to take pictures and skipped having a photographer at the reception. And, to curtail the tapping on glasses, we put signs on the tables that said, "If you want the bride and groom to kiss, you must stand up and sing a love song".
We wanted our wedding to be a great party...not a typical wedding reception...and it was. Everyone had so much fun. People were wearing their masks (the favors), getting up and singing (either to make us kiss or for Karaoke), they were taking pictures, and everything was so personal with the homemade items. Plus, we saved a lot of money.
If you want to cut costs with a wedding I think you need to do two things:
1.) Ask yourself what is really important? Anything else can be cut.
2.) Consider the talents of those you know...what things had be handmade, for example.
(I also designed and printed my own invitations).
"What one believes to be real, will be real in it's concequences"
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world"
KJ said this in post #11 : I'm so nervous... my wedding is only three weeks away.
I'm getting the jitters...
All I can say is, this is very normal.
If you are nervous about everything going as planned, I can tell you this, no matter what little or gigantic thing can go wrong, it won't matter. You will still look back at the day as one of the best in your life.
"What one believes to be real, will be real in it's concequences"
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world"
Last edited by Anomaly77 on 03-29-2004 at 03:45 AM |
It's possible to have a beautiful wedding for not too much money. You can get bargain wedding dresses that only cost in the neighborhood of $200.00, sometimes less. You can buy craft books and make your own table decorations and your own bridal and bridesmaids bouquets. You can serve a simple buffet
lunch consisting of sandwiches and salads. My neice hired a guy who owned a
huge grilling apparatus and she served grilled chicken and asked close family members to contribute picnic type salads. It was a very nice wedding and I think people took away from it very pleasant memories.
01-30-2004 01:46 AM
I mean it's been five years already ... I am waiting ...... LOL.
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Just messing with you fuscia. 
