heather15644 said this in post #1 : How old were you when you stopped believing in Santa?
What are you talking about? Are you saying he isnt real???
OMG! Santa isnt real???
Just joking!!
Umm...I cant remember how old I was.....but my son is five, and he is starting to question it...I may have been 6, 7...something like that....Im not totally positive...Ill have to ask my mom.....but she cant remember what she did two days ago, so Im not sure she will remember either....LOL!!!
Of course thats just my opinion....I could be wrong. (Dennis Miller)
"You might be the toughest little whacker. . .but in my world, you're about as worrisome as a cloudy day." (Dutch Dooley)
I was in fourth grade. I can still remember the day. I had an arguement with my friends at the lunch table at school. I insisted that he was real and they all laughed at me.
heather15644 said this in post #4 : I was in fourth grade. I can still remember the day. I had an arguement with my friends at the lunch table at school. I insisted that he was real and they all laughed at me.
That kind of breaks my heart to picture that.....
I have a question then since you seem to remember....did it take awhile to get over? Or did you recover easily? Some say a lie like that could scar a child...I say it doesnt since we all seem to pass down the same tradition to our own kids. I mean, if it really scarred us would we do the same things to our own kids? I dont think so.
Anyone else have any thoughts?
Of course thats just my opinion....I could be wrong. (Dennis Miller)
"You might be the toughest little whacker. . .but in my world, you're about as worrisome as a cloudy day." (Dutch Dooley)
I agree with you Mystic. I don't think we would do it to our kids if it was a harmful thing. I just think of all the excitement waiting for Santa. Trying to fall asleep so it would be Christmas Day, every little sound you just knew had to be Santa landing the sleigh. It was a wonderful and magical time.
i must be a scrooge. i remember feeling really stupid when i found out, so I have never taught my kids to believe in santa. i have always stressed the religious aspect of christmas. and i dont think they have missed out on anything because of the way i have taught them. its all in the way you present it to the child.
if a child doubting santa, i think its time for the parent to break the news.
cool beans
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I have a question then since you seem to remember....did it take awhile to get over? Or did you recover easily? Some say a lie like that could scar a child...I say it doesnt since we all seem to pass down the same tradition to our own kids. I mean, if it really scarred us would we do the same things to our own kids? I dont think so.
Anyone else have any thoughts?
I wasn't upset with my parents for lying to me because they were just like any other parents. I was really upset with myself for not figuring it out. I was the last of my friends to know. I still feel the embarrassment that I felt that day when I think about it. It definitely did something to me socially.
I was 9, it wasn't really a big deal because I didn't find out he wasn't real, I just found out the the presents really came from my parents. I still believe in the spirit of santa, I'm 43 and he still leaves me something at my moms house.
If you tell your kids there is a santa and then they find out and then poof thats it, you never celebrate santa again, then it probably was not a good thing to do in the first place.
jojoagain said this in post #9 : I was 9, it wasn't really a big deal because I didn't find out he wasn't real, I just found out the the presents really came from my parents.
Same thing that happened to me.
I noticed that the wrapping paper his was the same paper my family used.
I was probably in the 2nd grade. I remember I would always get these letters from Santa, it was so cool. Then I went to the store with my mom and there was this big display selling these pre-printed Santa letters. I was bummed. From there it all made sense. Kind of like the end of 'Usual Suspects'.
Actually i never believed in him.But at 16 i realised that i didn't matter if he existed or not b-cuz the message he was giving to children is more important.
Be unique! Be yourself, don't be what others expect of you.
My parents never disillusioned us with the thought of Santa, (not wanting us to find out later that he was a phony). Which made it easier when knowing exactly who to ask for gifts!
12-13-2003 01:00 AM
What are you talking about? Are you saying he isnt real???
Just joking!!
But at 16 i realised that i didn't matter if he existed or not b-cuz the message he was giving to children is more important.
