i am only 14 years old, but i still think i am in love. i have been dating this guy on and off since 6th grade, and we are always hanging out....how can i tell if i am in love with him?
I think you are too young still. You probably have really strong feelings for this guy and you have a wonderful friendship but being in love is a lot more than that and it requires maturity, commitment and trust. Enjoy this "innocent" love while you have it but do realize that you haev your whole life ahead of you still!
I know it is hard to hear, but for most people, love happens when you are older. Love is such a complex emotion. True love is almost a state of being. You think about that person first, you can not imagine being with anyone else, the person is your best friend and is in your heart and soul. It sounds like you have strong feelings for this guy and that you are also good friends. Only time will tell. The future is ahead of you with so many wonderful experiences awaiting you. If you are meant to be, then you will be.
Originally posted by matrix_fan_07 i am only 14 years old, but i still think i am in love. i have been dating this guy on and off since 6th grade, and we are always hanging out....how can i tell if i am in love with him?
I think you may very well love him and he loves you back and it's a loving friendship. But being "in love" is something altogether different. See fuscia's post which explains it very well, since it's pretty hard to explain.
If you are comfortable with it, you could ask your parents, a cool teacher or someone older who has been in love with the same person for a while how THEY knew they were in love.
Let us know what kind of answers you get
"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly,what is essential is invisible to the eye."
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
I don't even know if love comes around with maturity. There's definitely not a minimum age. But 14 is a little young, there is a lot of growing up to do. When I was that age I was insane for this chick, same thing when I was 18. Both times I thought it was love. In hindsight, I didn't know what love was. I have a better idea now.
Just enjoy being 14, serious. You're gonna look back one day and wonder how it went by so quick... and be a 25 year old lamenting on the internet
well i dont feel too comferatible asking my parents, just cuz they never understand, all of my teachers all just too wierd, and im not friends with ne one older than me.......you said that i love him and he loves me back.....the thing is, i dont know if he does or not.....
You!!! OFF MY PLANET!!
a wise monkey never monkies with another monkies monkey
matrix fan.......i am sure you love him....i am in all of your classes....nwo do you know who i am??? ne way....i have seen you two together and you are definetly in love....u sit together at lunch, u sit next to himn in class.....u love him
That is so sweet. I hope it works out for you and your guy matrixfan.
*sigh* I remember being 14 and thinking I was in love, sitting together at lunch time, holding hands, glancing at eachother in class. It all seemed so romantic and grown up.
For the record: I don't believe your silly story that you're 3 different people. And if you are, I DEFINATELY don't believe you don't know eachother because 1.) You have the exact same grammer and style of constructing sentances and 2.) you always talk conveniently one-after-the-other.
And if, for some reason, your style of writing dramatically changed tomorrow -- I wouldn't be surprised.
Please pardon my pseudo-intellectuaphilisophicalismysiticality.
Yeah, you love him. But you don't know him. You know why? Because he doesn't know himself. You don't even know yourself.
What if he told you he loves you? But then a month later he found out that you like Christina Agulara, Brittney Spears, the Olsen Twins, and that your favorite show in the world is American Idol. When he finds that out he decides to never talk to you again.
Did he love you? Some people think if you love someone you should be willing to put up with the things you don't like about them. Other people think that you should have gotten to know eachother better before you allowed yourself to get those feelings. (I don't mean favorite color, favorite season, favorite song... There is a LOT more to someone that that).
I think there are 3 stages of "love" which are (In my opinion):
1. Puppy-love (You "like" him and want to believe it's going to bloom into a fairy-tail love-story even though neither of you probably know yourselves)
2. Love (You actually do love him. But you don't know him very well).
3. TRUE LOVE. (You both know yourselfs, and eachother, and you both still "love" eachother).
This is my opinion... But I'm just 21 years old who's only played with "love" a couple of times.
Please pardon my pseudo-intellectuaphilisophicalismysiticality.
11-30-2003 11:56 PM
