gaboman said this in post #19 : "Should the child die for the sins of the father?" - that is such a horrible thing to wish upon a rape victim. Being a man, I'm ashamed that another man would be so insensitive... but that's neither here nor there, you are indeed allowed your opinion.
But the only way I can see your view is like this: a woman, raped, a traumatic ordeal indeed (hardly think you can argue that point). Then she's suddenly pregnant; an abortion is a hard thing to go through with, and it will most likely scar them for life. But that scar won't be anywhere near as deep as it would be if they had to see the product of their rape each and every day for the rest of their life. I mean, they may love the child completely; but at the back of their mind that child would still be a subtle reminder of how they were humiliated - reduced to a mass of fleshy desire and conquored by some twisted individual.
It makes me sick just thinking about it.
I really don't think that is the issue in a woman's mind gaboman.
An unplanned baby because of someone else's brutality and now you have to not only deal with the trauma of the rape, but also , How am I going to support this baby? How can I raise it?
In such a society as ours that demeans rape victims over and over again...blaming women for being raped in court room after court room...
can you hear someone say offhandedly..."Where is the father? Who is the father?"
Her honest response would be..."Oh, he raped me and got me pregnant. And since it was 'my fault' he doesn't have to spend child support, nor does he have to spend any time behind bars."
But you are right about one thing Gaboman...I find the writer very insensitive and kudos and a pat on the back to you for having more tact with him than I am not allowed to do.
"How am I going to support this baby" is certainly one aspect, I didn't mean to discount that entirely.
Why aren't you allowed to have tact? I'll talk to someone about that.
I hate this really awesome posts about animals and humans not being so different (in that we're made of the same substances, we're just slightly more intelligent and have a different shape), but I deleted it cause I figured some people may be offended. Woe is me
"I'm for it so we can put Nuclear power plants up there, and then beam the power back to earth on a laser beam." ~ Whidden
An unplanned baby because of someone else's brutality and now you have to not only deal with the trauma of the rape, but also , How am I going to support this baby? How can I raise it?
a person might consider giving the child up for adoption
In such a society as ours that demeans rape victims over and over again...blaming women for being raped in court room after court room...
Are you suggesting rape charges be accepted without question? That the accused should have no right to face their accuser?
can you hear someone say offhandedly..."Where is the father? Who is the father?"
Is it better to kill the baby than answer awkward questions?
Her honest response would be..."Oh, he raped me and got me pregnant. And since it was 'my fault' he doesn't have to spend child support, nor does he have to spend any time behind bars."
Another answer might be... "I got drunk at a party, had sex with a bunch of guys I didn't know, two months later found out I was pregnant and had an abortion. I didn't want to answer awkward questions"
But you are right about one thing Gaboman...I find the writer very insensitive and kudos and a pat on the back to you for having more tact with him than I am not allowed to do.
You are welcome to be tactful, it is the personal attacks, such as calling me "insensitive" that degenerates a dicussion into a name-calling shouting match. Sensitive people can disagree with you.
No, Heck! you don't understand, I read so fast...even scrolling down I read them...I don't have time or the even the remote possiblity of ignoring by scrolling.
Maybe others can do it...maybe they read slow, I don't know...all I do know is that ignore works...and I rely on others with the wherewithal to report posts...because quite frankly I don't care if people make arses of themselves, I just don't have to read it.
03-21-2006 01:34 AM
I'll talk to someone about that.
a person might consider giving the child up for adoption
