does this make you gay?

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Hey everybody i have a question. Does it make you gay if you let someone of the same sex perform oral sex on you?

I think it all depends on how you felt about this act of intimacy. If you didn't like it, then u are probably straight. The questions you have to ask yourself are "Did I enjoy it?", "Would I do it again?" I am gay, and I remember my first experience with another female, so I can help you if you want, feel free to pm me... hope you figure it out.

the odds are you are homosexual if you let someone perform such acts on you which has been stated by religion, to say your gay may be a wrong term to use you could be bi-sexual which is defined by webster's dictionary as I quote "sexually attracted to both sexes"

yeah, don't get hung up on the "labels" - consider the situation, decide whether or not it's your bag, and then if necessary, classify yourself with a label for discussion purposes. but don't start with the label.

My first thought?: Whoever it was was probably just really horny. Now, if they actually liked it and would consider doing it again, i think it's safe to say that they are either gay or bisexual. Other than that, maybe it was just noting more than a curious learning experience.

Ok so even if you liked it, it does not mean your gay. If you enjoy giving oral or recieving oral who cares as long as you are both happy about the decission

I dont think it makes you necessarily gay..................... curious yes, gay no!!!!

amen

Ok, there's curiosity and all... but once your mouth touches genitals or something dissappears inside you, that sounds pretty gay to me.

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Oh is that what that is called I thought it was called SEX!

Good one dream. But just because you do it doesn't make you gay. I agree with sean. Dont label decide if its your thing or not. But dont be think that just because you did it your gay, maybe you are but maybe your not, thats what you have to decide.

I would have to agree to that one Nymph

This is why I feel we have such a problem in our society accepting people, is because we mask what we truly are sometimes to make others feel better about doing it.

Being gay: of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to persons of the same sex.

So what your gay, if you enjoyed it your gay, don't mean you have to announce it to everyone if you feel your going to get crap for doing it. Quit feeling like crap, you enjoyed it, it felt right, have fun

I'm not judging or saying there is anything wrong if people experiment or whatever, but like I said, once you cross that line, you are gay. Now, if it was an isolated incident, then you could say that you're not gay anymore after that. Sounds like some people want to be able to bat for both teams and not get labeled. Either be gay or don't. Don't ride the gay fence.

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Having sex with someone of the same gender once or twice does not make you gay. That is a same sex experience. Now if you loved it and want to do it again, that makes you gay. If you are attracted to someone of the same gender and have every intention of being with someone of the same gender. That makes you gay.

Just because you have one or two experiences does not mean you are automatically gay. Many straight men have used gay men for sex because they were too lazy or drunk to find a female.

Okay, trying to keep this "G" rated here.

Heck, you are assuming the person went that far. I am talking about what the original poster asked.

How in the World do you keep a thread entitled "Does this make you gay?" G rated?

Besides...he...he used the word fiddle...

Well... I didn't think it was necessary to "sex it up" and was trying to limit my verbage, should some of the young crowd wander in. Trying to respect others. Although I am not sure how "G" rated any of our threads are.

Hmmm... fiddle... isin't that something you play?

Me? oh nooooo never played a fiddle.

lol gabo.

I don't know, this thread is too gay. I've said my peace, I suppose.

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I think you are right on JH. And you have a very valid point, just because you do something once doesn't make you that for life.

lol now that was funny

You could be bisexual. I think I know more bisexual people than heterosexual or homosexuals! Don't try and find a word to describe yourself sexually though...just be a sexual being! As long as it is between two consenting people...ENJOY! SAFELY...that is!

Well put Luke. Are you thinking about a dude or a chick when you pleasure yourself? that should pretty much tell you but just because you try dsomething doesnt mean that what you are. When you go test drive a car that doesnt mean you have to buy it.

tid2256:

The answer to your question is 'not necessarily.'

If you only enjoy oral sex with a person of the same sex, then you are gay.

But if you enjoy oral sex with a persons of both sexes, then you are bisexual.

Well, if you read the post it never says anything anout enjoying it or not, it just says if you let someone do it does that make you gay. Answer.....NO!

I think it does. People can have fantasies with other people of the same sex. That doesn’t mean your gay. It’s only if you act upon it which makes you gay. But then there are different levels or gay. Everybody in a sense is gay, just different levels of it.

Yeah, I think we need more information from tid2256 to know what the situation was (i.e. drunk, horny/desperate, etc) then we could give more of an answer as to if there gay.

Chodder that is irrelevant!!!!!

I have already stated my view point on this topic....... you are NOT gay for trying something out, be it that you were drunk, sober, desperate, horny.......... if you do it and then claim that this was the reason then you are pretty PATHETIC....... in my opinion because most people lie!!!

Hell you did it and I hope you enjoyed it, cuz I would have.................

You're either gay or you're not. Nothing makes you gay. And if you read tid's other posts you will see he is married and has kids. So one experience is probably not going to "make" him gay. And he may not even have been talking about himself.

Can I just say... I've been with men, and was even married to one.
Did that "make" me straight? Nope... I'm queer.
You either are or aren't... that's my view.
And it isn't right or wrong. It just 'is'.

KJ I've been with females and don't consider myself gay or even bi................. I just took it as a "learning" experience

I also had a guy friend marry a female to be accepted into society............... wrong move since it finally killed him and made everyone involved miserable............ the things some people FEEL they have to do to be accepted........... it's ridiculous that WE drive them to that

Erika

Outsider can I commend you on that "FINE" post in the other thread............... you made me tear up...... having a brother that is gay, it hit close to home........... already I see the mistreatment he gets from others and although it hurts me, I am proud that he continues to proudly tell people he's gay......... if he can fight the demons, like Kooka and Devil, then the least I can do is to stand by him fighting the same monsters.............. thank you

Thank you very much Harley, I appreciate your compliment. And you are an excellent sister to care about your brother so much.

Ahhhhhhhhhh Outsider thanks............. all I do is what I was taught to do and that is simply, be a good sister............. no more, no less!

I believe that almost every man loves oral sex. They don't care if it is from a woman or a man.

Yeah I would definately have to agree with HECK. I don't know many stright guys who would say hell a bjobs a bjob and let a dude just go at it.

I have to agree with what HECK said as well. Guys may love oral, but most do care who does it.

Some people think that oral sex is them trying to talk their way out of it

Hahahaha, nice effort though Pulse.

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Ironically, I do know straight men who are "so comfortable" with their sexuality that they'll allow another man to perform oral sex on them. Reason being they say: "Hey, they're the one doing it, not me."

I find that digusting, because I'm all the way straight, not just mostly. They might just be joking...

The only way I would let someone is if I was either dead or unconscious. Even if someone came up to me and said I will give you so much money that you will never have to work again another day in your life, I will still refuse. You could have all the money in the world, but still feel regret and you would have to sit home (since you don’t have to work) and twiddle your thumbs thinking about it.

I dunno Chodder, so much money that you'd never have to work again? Interesting proposition. I'd have to think about that. Reminds me of the movie "Indecent Proposal" and what my boss said to her former husband when he questioned what she would do in that situation... (Sleep with Robert Redford for $1 million) She simply replied: "It would take me a while, but I think I could come up with the money."

I suggest sleeping on it because when sleeping the mind sorts things out because you don’t have any other distractions bothering you. That’s why if you get a good nights rest everything is clearer the next morning and you can think better. Plus it does the body good

Hmm... if someone offered me MILLIONS upon MILLIONS of dollars to sleep with a man, I would seriously consider it. Hell, doesn't mean I'm straight, just because I have sex with a man. Just means that I CAN be bought, if the price is right!