Melana is no longer welcome in KC.

Average Joe 1 & 2 Forum

I live in KC and see Melana at every Chiefs game doing the interviews. I have always thought she was awesome. That is until now.

She picked the loser who has the personality of a thimble based strictly on his looks. I'm sorry, but the guy is a girl.....and I would be completely mortified if I had to sit in a bar and try to hang out with him for 3-4 hours. DORK.

As well, he has the maturity of a 16 year old.

All the time, Adam is such a stud with everything to offer. I would be surprised if Jason amounts to a Janitorial level.

Bad Melana, you made me sick all last night, and with your obvious non-concern for Adam when you told him......you showed your true colors that when those three hunks walked in the door a few weeks ago....you had already made up your mind.

Biatch!!!!

I agree! Melana is a shallow superficial idiot!! My wife an I watched the show last night and were mortified. We don't ever watch tv, and we turned on the average joe and got hooked. At first I thought Melana could make the right choice... boy was I wrong. It burns me up that guy's like Adam who are kind, good looking, and stable get the cold sholder from women in life. I have been dying inside to let out my opinion about this. I would really like to e-mail and call Adam to tell him that he's Awesome, and not to worry about some superficial cheerleader... she didn't deserve him! Does anyone have Adams e-mail address or phone number? Wait.... Look what I found on switchboard.com. I wander if this is him?
Adam Mesh
401 E 34th St
New York, NY 10016-4914
(212)686-6002

I agree, Melana chose Jason basically for his looks. I thought the whole idea of the show was for her to choose and average joe. They never should have brought the "models" in because they knew she would choose them based on looks. She is such a jerk! I hope her "choice" dumps on her big time and she regrets her choice. Adam is a great guy and he deserves so much more than Melana. I will not watch the second series of the show because you know the same thing will happen.

Im not sure how this show was put together. Im sure AJ2 will yeild the same results. Even if you thought Zack was an ass, at least he was a true average Joe. Not to good looking, not really that ugly. Clowns around, and taunts the weaker. That truly is the average guy. We have all been there, either as the teaser or the tease hopefully you are smart and have been able todo both.
However Adam is the type of friend that everyone should want and with the cash he has could get any girl he wants. Maybe not on the TV show. Hell he doesnt even have to let the girl know how much he is worth.

Adam in a hollow jesture (since he will never see this) may you find what you are looking for, take these experiances and apply them to the new women in your life. Should you want gash or love, understand that in the end you are 100% a class act. I cannot say enough on how you acted in a quality manner. Even if you went home and burned down your appartment.
Enjoy your new target. Id ditch that picture.

Come on people! Leave her alone. Jason was very sweet and sensitive to her. Plus, as much as we all hate to admit it, LOOKS ARE IMPORTANT! She even said that her heart goes crazy upon each encounter with Jason. I fully agree and support her decision. I mean she really likes Jason and he seems like a really sincere and MATURE guy. Adam was great but just didn't give her the same feelings that Jason did.

I think we're all hacked at her hypocrisy. If she would have come out and said "Looks are #1" then we would have known right up front she's the shallow twit she turned out in the end.

Jason was sweet and sensitive... tried to get her loaded... and yes, Jason probably makes her a little drippy. If she's after looks, good for her. She doesn't deserve someone like Adam.

How stupid is she?! She picked an umemployed, stupid, pretty boy over a charming, sucessful, rich guy who would provide her with what ever she wanted. This guy Jason can't even play checkers! Al she ever talked about when it came to him was his looks! And he always looks like he is going to start crying!
If she were a man I would say she thought with her private parts and not her head. All this talk about how much she learned from these "Average Joes" and all this stuff that no one ever did for her except Adam and what does she do....choose the one with the looks. If she claims that it was based on anything else then she is lying to herself. If she truely is this shallow and stupid then Adam is better of without her. Not that he is perfect, but at least he has a job and a career!

A shallow and stupid pick! I guess she turned out to be a dumb cheerleader after all. What a disappointment!

Too bad melena doesnt realize that in 10 to 20 years all the
looks fade..content of character lasts.......

Adam was so kind and would have appreciated her and loved her as her skin became droopyand her body started to creak.....

Better yet she would have had a secure life with a person that knows his own mind and could provide for her and their children...the other guy is still a student with his head in the clouds.....Ive seen the type that changes his majors every year and still doesnt know what he wants at 40...oh well i guess she'll learn the hard way ..Young people think that rush of emotion is love and a connection and in reality its just hormones running overtime..its all in brain chemistry and glands..and we as intelligent human beings are supposed to be able to tell the two apart...

I guess she's not as smart as she thinks she is..

The producers edited this show to the hilt. Jason isn't the brightest bulb true but the cross cuts of Jason in the pool and Adam's workout being turned into some Rocky underdog sequence vs. the lazy pretty boy was as manipulative as it gets. The real losers are the viewers and the average joe's. What's up with bringing in the pretty boys? What are we back in high school? Why didn't the producers pick more successful guys like Adam (great personality but not a pretty boy)? The show would be more interesting.

Adam is lucky Melana bagged her pretty boy. Melana and Jason aren't in his league. The relationship never would have worked she was only tempted by Adam's money (not his character and personality). I was laughing when she started feeling guilty about Jason (head turned by the money only) which Adam sensed.

At first I was bummed, but now I think the whole thing is hilarious. The joke is on Jason and Melana they came across looking lame (Jason's relationship guide when you drink I'm interesting) and mean spirited (Melana lack of concern over Adams feelings as she dumps him and starts kissing Jason outside of the bus).

All I can say is that I hope Adam got a little bit of tail from Melana before the end.

Some of you may find this comment sexist, but hell we can all see from Melan's choice what she was really after by picking Jason.

When she said that she was physically attracted to him, that told me she was thinking with her P**Y and not her brains.

Oh wait..... do you think she has any sense in that head of hers anyway?

Once again, we have learned that beauty is only skin deep

Am I doing too much if....
I go to Chiefs' ball game this coming Sunday and hold a big sign saying "Melana is a b_tch".

Email is adammesh@adammesh.com
website is www.adammesh.com

Melana was quite shallow indeed....

I can't believe the majority of you fell for the producers ploy... Melana is beautiful and brainy and so is Jason. Adam was okay, but the way he talked drove me crazy. You could feel the chemistry between Jason and Melana, and they had so much in common. I'm so sick of people thinking that just because you are good looking you can't be smart, have a good personality, are shallow, etc. Whoever thinks that is shallow themselves. I've met more attractive people who have a heart and brains than ugly ones with it. Perhaps that is because they have to deal with a jealous population intent to knock them down to make themselves feel better. If you can get the whole package (as both Melana and Jason have) why settle for half in someone such as Adam? Please!!!

After picking myself up off the floor at seeing the ending of this show. I wiped the blood from my nose and took a deep breath, trying to calm myself down. After ranting and raving for the better part of an hour I realized that Adam was much better off without Melana. Think of the women (some good, and some not-so-good) that he will run into over the next few years who will be just as attractive, if not more than Melana, and will not be as superficial as Melana.

Adam rocks..... a hero for the rest of us Average Joes...peace out

Ok... first of all... if she would have picked Adam.. she would have been a money grubber... yes or no? She didn't click with him.. so what if she liked Jason for his looks? At least she didn't go for the money... I think she made the right decision and you really think they care what the hell we think.. get real...

yeah, i don't really understand why everyone hates melana and jason so much for being together in the end.. when you go on shows like this, the end result is to pick who you want in a romantic partner, and that's what she sees in jason.. i mean.. she knows that adam is a great person (which we all recognize) but she saw him as a friend.. you can't fault her for that. besides, how come everyone's beating melana over for choosing jason because she's physically attracted to him when all the average joes have liked melana for that very exact same reason. So it's okay for guys to like her because she's pretty but it's not okay the other way around? Every joe walked off that bus and said.. wow.. she's hot.. and then went nuts after her... so why is it wrong to go for attraction?

I'm glad to see there are some people who see it the way I do. By the way, I know firsthand how people judge "the book by the cover" because I am also petite and blonde. When others compliment me, I am amazed because I see my faults: mornings with puffy eyes and no make up, etc. People immediately judge me as superficial, ditzy, arrogant, etc. and I am far from each of those! I love to read, am very intellectual, deeply spiritual, and love people for who they are, not what they look like. At one time, in fact, I chose not to date a particular well-known person because I was afraid of what people would think of HIM for dating me (he was not as attractive but a wonderful person and I was afraid they would judge him as shallow for dating someone who looked like me). Shame on me! If people jump to conclusions without knowing a person, THEY are the one who is shallow and judgmental. Melana and Jason are people just like us. Please look beyond the surface and give people a chance. You just might be surprised at what you find underneath! Even a beautiful person can have a beautiful inside! Our outward appearance has nothing to do with who we are inside!!!

Well, I only watched the last episode, where the shallow, heartless cheerleader chooses the shallow, heartless closet-gay-guy over the sensitive, mature, romantic, successful not-ugly man. Typical pablum spewed by typical network TV. The whole thing makes me wonder: Was it REALLY real? Or was the outcome planned in advance and played out by actors? If the show was about the "average joe", then why did they bring in models at all? Was Melana so vacuous from the gitgo that they had to promise to bring in some models just to keep her from walking off the show on day one? Okay, call me a "conspiracy theorist" (It's okay, I'm used to it. ), but I think this show was just a fancy commercial to promote the interests of NBC's advertisers, who want everyone to think that physical beauty is the only thing that's gonna land the babe in a man's lap in the end. That's the message that sells everything from razors to deodorant to sports cars. I mean, god forbid the public getting the idea that personality and character are actually worth anything of value...

I do not think because Jason changed directions in his career means that his direction in life was "amateurishly moronic" in comparison to Adam's. In fact, it could mean quite the opposite. Maybe he quickly realized that life is too short to spend no less than 40 hours a week doing something you don't absolutely love, therefore, he changed directions. If that is the case (which I gathered it was) kudo's to him! On the other hand, maybe Adam chose his career for money and prestige (not likely, but possible) in which case, he would be the one who is lacking in maturity and depth. Given the situation, I would have chosen Jason as well and do not think he was a poor choice at all.

In response to post #21 who assumes Jason is shallow and gay just because he is good-looking and Melana is shallow and heartless because she was a cheerleader and chose Jason - you obviously ONLY watched the last episode. Melana was truly falling for the other guys, but when she noticed that Jason was the only guy who didn't make fun of her fat "cousin" and the one she had the most in common with and was most attracted to - he became her choice instead. Those are not shallow, but very solid reasons.

Oh well, we could argue our points for decades... The show is over and it got us all thinking and talking - a good thing given the fact that the majority of the population is seemingly apathetic and complacent.

people.. why go ape crazy on a show. its only that.

I can see how it may have come across as sounding conceited, and of course, I did not mean it that way. I meant that people would just look at the external and make judgments without knowing anything beyond that. In particular, I'm petite, blonde, and have a bubbly personality so people immediately classify me as a "dumb blonde." He was very insightful and spiritual and those were his most attractive assets to me. I also tend to be philosophical and spiritual, but people aren't likely to jump to that conclusion upon first meeting me. Actually, I thought he was very attractive physically, but I hardly noticed that trait (and I'm sure some would disagree - to each his own), just as I'm sure my perceived attractiveness level varies from person to person. External beauty has little merit because anyone with enough money and surgery can look good.

I don't hate you - I appreciate your honesty and courage to voice your opinion!

I admire the way you did not "fly off the handle" by my post.......... most girls would have, believe me. As for your post, now with the new one you just posted it makes a lot more sense and really puts you in a different light in my eyes. I myself (although not blonde) are petite and with a bubbly personality, but I think that what saves me from being called a dumb-brunette is the fact that I am so tomboyish.... and you can't help but love me. I whole-heartedly agree with you that external beauty is of very little merit....... the world would be a whole better place if people were to value other things above money, power & physical beauty..............................

~Erika~

hahahaha you really need to ask my boyfriend that!!!


~Erika~

Could it be that the reaction to Melana's choice is based not just on who is looking at it ... but how they themselves look ?

I am wondering if prettier people, who may have more options, tend to find her choice more acceptable, while those who are truly average, or even ready for "Extreme Makeover" see her as more shallow. Just curious.

I think there is some life conditioning as well.

If like Melana, you grow up winning beauty contests and having all the traditionally handsome males ( both shallow and deep ) camped on your doorstep, someone like Adam may not completely meet your expectations in a life mate.

If you grow up without positive attention for your looks, and because you are "average", have had to compete at a disadvantage with women who look like Melana ( or guys who look like Jason ) your expectations are different.
Most average looking single people I know, would consider both Melana and Jason out of their range of possibilities.

Most single people I know whose looks are in the realm of Melana & Jason, typically lean towards those who are similarly attractive.

Also, if there are 2 equally qualified people applying for the same job, and in the looks department one is average or less and the other is above average ... who would get the job ?

Anyway, just my 2cents.

You make a VERY good point Oldbutafan...........

Although not ALL who grow up within the same realm as Melana and Jason, think along the same ways............

Although I never entered into beauty pageants, because I consider those a waste of time, I am an extremely handsome woman yet this does not immediately mean that I NEED to be with someone who is good looking, my boyfriend attracted me because of his personality and his warm heart..... and believe me he is not considered handsome by some people but to me he is the BEST looking guy I have ever come accross because I see more to him than just looks....... no matter what anyone says he holds my heart now for 6 years!!! and if you really look at couples out there you will see that a majority of good looking guys tend to typically date ugly or average girls..... why is this to boost their own ego or simply to always stay in the spotlight?? Good looking girls for the most part, date those that can afford them... and most smart guys are of average looks............. am I not right????

Maybe the reason most of us are dumping on Melena is because, althought we know how these girls typically think, we maybe expect it not to see it flaunted so openly on tv............ or maybe we are all just hypocrites who say they want one thing but go for the other........ I don't know...............

Just my two cents................

~Erika~

Good point and well said. I know from experience the frustration of at one moment (when fixed up) being called "drop dead gorgeous" and turning heads, and at another moment (without the help of makeup, etc.) becoming invisible to the general public. Once nominated as "Most Beautiful" in high school, as a mother now in my mid 30's, my priorities are different. Rather than spending an hour at the gym to have a perfect body, I'd rather spend that time playing with my son. However, the reaction of the general public to this is astonishing. Interestingly enough, I'm truly a more beautiful person today than I was then, but where is the nomination for "most beautiful" now???

In a day and age of "Extreme Makeover" we see how easily our appearances can change. That's the thing - we are constantly changing - both inwardly and outwardly, so to make rash judgments is futile. The sad thing is that as a society made up of fallen human beings, we place so much importance on the exterior when it is so fleeting and superficial. It's only human to be attracted to beautiful things, but I wish we all spent more time looking beyond the surface of things. The media is to blame for much of this, but so are we. If we all spent as much time and energy on our soul as we do on the way we look, this world would be a better place.

By the way, I don't usually visit message boards and write this stuff, but I guess this hit a nerve. It's obviously a topic I feel passionately about and appreciate the opportunity to voice these feelings.

Is this reality TV? I really don't thing it matters who she picked. Did anyone stop to think that she might have a boyfriend back home in KC? And maybe she only does these reality shows because she thinks its good for her career?

It's TV, the producers dictate everything that happens. The same thing happened in "Meet my folks".

You'll find that most of these beautiful women only do these shows so they can get into Hollywood. In reality, women like this don't go on TV shows to find the love of their life.

Sorry, not exaclty a fun post for what is really just a fun TV show, but it sounded like a couple people in the forum were taking this a bit to hard.

Oskar

I don't know, I have read a number of posts and the reactions seem pretty real. I guess it is all for entertainment purposes anyway. Problem is, people from all over the world watch this stuff and believe its real. They believe your typical american woman is just like Melena (or at least the role she is acting). The world opinion of the US is bad enough.

Maybe if it wasn't sold as "reality" it wouldn't be so bad.

Thanks for replying

It's all publicity. "Dating Show" contestants are budding celebs, look at how many were on the old "Dating Game", like Tom Selleck and John Ritter.

"Bacholer Bob" did his show to promote his CD and to "climb the show biz ladder". He just picked a woman and dumped her as fast as he could. then hooked up with the hostess of the "Bacholer" reruns!

melana made the best decision for her. she didnt have as strong as feelings for adam as she did for jason. yeah adam was sweet, but if she was more attracted to jason than she was adam, she made the best decision- by the way i was rooting for jason the whole time

I was rooting for Jason the whole time and I'm a guy. Melena is just way too good looking for Adam. I mean it just ain;t right people. Plus if she chose Adam it would be for the cash-money. Anyways, rumor has it that she and Jason have split up and she was seen in public with that douche bag, Zach. I hated that guy. I mean who breaks an egg on some poor dude's head? What, is he in like 5th grade or something? I prey that the rumor is false.

I definately agree with you curryface, the kiss between adam and melana was unbearable to watch. you could just tell that they were not compatable

Nicely said. You can't tell me that when Jason and Melena looked or talked at/to eachother that you couldn't sense the passion for eachother. Adam was really cool, but so were the other guys. And what if Melena chose Adam?...everyone would be bagging her because she chose the 'rich' guy. If you searched Melena on the internet, you would DEFINETELY come pass her biography, and it would tell you that she graduated at a good school. So what if Jason still lives with his parents? I think that it's sweet. And he DID say that he only moved back in with them because he needed to save money while studying at school, so get over yourselfs. Adam was rich and all, but they didn't connect at the same level as Jason and Melena did, and you should be able to tell this if you watched the WHOLE series. Some people who sent stuff in just watched the last episode and think that they know everything about her. You're just telling or bagging her because she didn't do what YOU would've done, but lets face it, SHE was the bachellorette, SHE was picking the guys, and most of all, SHE was the one getting to know the guys, not YOU. How about the apisode when she pretended to be her cousin and dressed up in the fat suit?...Adam bagged her 'cousin' WAY more than Jason did, and when Danielle came out on elimination night and told the guys that she'd heard everything, Adam even said that he was thinking 'oh my god', so what do u say about that?!?!?!?!?!